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<p>With deep heartfelt gratitude…<br/>
2018 Nautilus Book Award.               🥈 🥈🥈Silver 🥈🥈🥈<br/>
for my five volume series The Soul- Discovery Journalbook: An Intimate Journey into Self!</p>

<p>Many thanks to the people who helped me along the way, esp. Spirit Speaks Publishing, my family, friends, and spiritual family at Sacred Garden Fellowship. A special thanks to my clients and students who gave me the opportunities to develop new ways of helping them. And finally to all those who’ve had the faith in me and my work, supporting the long years of creative flow and manifestation by purchasing the books. 🙏🏽❤️💖❣️📚😉🙏🏽🥈❤️<br/>
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With deep heartfelt gratitude…
2018 Nautilus Book Award. 🥈 🥈🥈Silver 🥈🥈🥈
for my five volume series The Soul- Discovery Journalbook: An Intimate Journey into Self!

Many thanks to the people who helped me along the way, esp. Spirit Speaks Publishing, my family, friends, and spiritual family at Sacred Garden Fellowship. A special thanks to my clients and students who gave me the opportunities to develop new ways of helping them. And finally to all those who’ve had the faith in me and my work, supporting the long years of creative flow and manifestation by purchasing the books. 🙏🏽❤️💖❣️📚😉🙏🏽🥈❤️
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Posted 2 days ago
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Join SGF for our April 26-28 Radical Change Retreat, a deeply introspective psycho-spiritual healing retreat. The Radical Change Retreat is dedicated to illuminating and releasing the stories you tell yourself and others, the stories that keep you locked in a prison of erroneous beliefs, intimately tied to core suffering and fear. For more information on this transformational retreat please visit www.sacredgardenfellowship.org
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Sweet feet visiting me before bed…❤️

Posted 7 weeks ago
<p>The repetitive, regular tendencies or practices in daily
functioning, those often eliciting our involuntary participation, are known as
habits. They become an integral part of our lives as helpful, as well as limiting,
entrenchments; the self-care habits that support the health of our physical
form stand alongside the pesky, self-sabotage of stress-induced or reactive
patterns that become the hard-to-relinquish ruts of daily life.</p><p>Habits manifest in all shapes and sizes and are often
thought of as an observable behavior. Frequently, our existing habits occur
automatically without our consistent or conscious participation, mostly because
we lose the need for active focus. Take driving, for example. Once we learn to
drive, the methodical thinking through every step to execute the mechanics of
operating our vehicle becomes unnecessary. It just organically happens because
a habit was formed.</p><!-- more --><p>We all have habits of various purpose, creation, and
strength – some, borne out of a need for safety, others devised for ease,
efficiency, or to fulfill rules or norms. Brushing and washing, for example,
live alongside cleaning our room and tidying our home, as well as the larger
community care of recycling and maintaining our dwellings and/or properties. Kept
in balance, these habits serve to honor our physical temple and proverbial
home. Both witness the Divinity within us and all things by loving ourselves, others,
and Mother Earth. </p><p>As we move beyond our perfunctory and reflexive world to engage
in self-reflection, personal growth, and spiritual development, the life of
many habits comes to the fore. Some may be easily seen, while others remain an
elusive part of our day-to-day operations and reactions and are a bit trickier
to detect. Many have their roots in thought or emotional patterns, like the
knee-jerk reaction to a perceived negative comment or our slide into
self-criticism when we feel we’ve done something wrong. </p><p>Taking a closer look at the vast array of habits in our
life, their origin is one aspect all hold in common; we can trace our habits’
literal birth from the womb of our beliefs – a belief about ourselves and/or
our world. Returning to driving, for example, the proverbial fuel for this American
activity lies in the belief in independence, a teenage rite of passage and an alignment
with societal norms. Looking deeper into the habits within habits, we might also
discover nervous navigation, road rage, or a compulsion to speed fed by
corresponding beliefs in danger, others’ wrongdoing, or hurrying through life. </p><p>So how can we work with the habits we’ve developed, especially
addressing those that don’t serve our highest good? Traveling on the road to
discovery and change, we can free ourselves from old habits through examination
and relinquishment. Other interventions require intentional re-patterning. Calling,
for example, on the Japanese practice of <a><i>datsuzoku</i></a> – the freedom from habit,
daily routine, or the ordinary – opens us to the new by transcending convention
and our personal ruts. Applied, it is the choice to “do something differently”,
to break the steps of our routine, or think out of the box in an innovative way
and move past our typical ways of operating.</p><p>Working at a deeper level we can examine the belief that
created our habit in the first place, asking if the habit serves us or we’re
serving it. As beliefs that find voice through the patterns of our limiting
attitudes become discovered, we can intentionally allow them to fall away because
we see how they block us from living freely in alignment with our True Nature. And
while releasing these kinds of beliefs moves us forward on our path, the accompanying
patterns and habits often remain scored into our psyche like a well-traveled
hiking trail until we re-pattern or completely release them, too. In other
words, as we liberate ourselves from constraining beliefs, it’s often the
habits and patterns that remain intact to plague us, feeling as if they pull
our mind and heart back to the ways we left behind, though not nearly as
potently as when the attached belief remains active. As we invest energy into
new, healthy behaviors instead of our outdated habits, the heavily worn trail
of these entrenched neural patterns grows grass again to blend once more with
the mossy forest floor of our psyche. Removing all energy from old habits or
merely acknowledging any diversion as a tug in the “old direction”, we also practice
<i>datsuzoku</i> to move forward on new and
exciting paths.</p><p>Changing habits, because of their nature and ours, often
feels challenging and uncomfortable. But know that discomfort serves as a
marker to demonstrate our progress, a sign that we are just where we need to be,
even in the midst of change. So hang in there! Remember that habits take
approximately eighteen months to form, so their dissolution and/or
re-patterning takes time, too.</p><p>Listed below is a partial inventory of
behavioral, thought, and emotional habits. Those that appear helpful,
sustaining, or growth-enhancing remain alongside those that may not serve our
highest good. While incomplete, this list shines first light on that which we
tend to ignore or do automatically, demonstrating that nearly any behavior,
thought pattern, or emotional recurrence may indicate a habit needing our
conscious attention. Because we tend to categorically label patterns or habits
as “good” or “bad” influenced by our judgment-driven world, in the journeys to
come, let’s broaden our scope and instead consider how each habit may be
serving our highest good. Are they growth-promoting, health-based patterns,
which demonstrate our self-love? Or are they a call to examine what is
unhealthy or inhibiting – a notification to shed light on the work yet to be
done? For a deeper look, we revisit this topic in Letting
Go in Volume
IV. </p><p>Here lies the opportunity to witness whatever the Universe
calls us to observe, re-balance, or shed to be the master of our world, lovingly
caring for ourselves on this big, beautiful rock floating in an infinite sky. </p><p>Healthy
  eating</p><p>Word
  choice</p><p>Emotional
  self-care</p><p>Caffeine
  addiction</p><p>Swearing</p><p>Staying
  centered</p><p>Praying</p><p>“Seeing”
  a silver lining</p><p>Loving
  attitude</p><p>Meditating</p><p>Positive
  thinking</p><p>Reacting
  dramatically</p><p>Driving
  a car</p><p>Assuming
  “bad” outcomes</p><p>Consistent
  irritation</p><p>Good
  hygiene</p><p>Being
  bossy</p><p>Feeling
  inferior</p><p>Deep
  breathing</p><p>Looking
  for “the culprit”</p><p>Blaming
  others</p><p>Smoking</p><p>Complaining</p><p>Worrying</p><p>Hurrying</p><p>Apologizing</p><p>Defaulting
  to frustration</p><p>Physically
  isolating</p><p>Overly
  independent</p><p>Shutting
  down</p><p>Nail
  biting</p><p>Needing
  to be right</p><p>Nervousness</p><p>Nose
  picking</p><p>Poor
  hygiene</p><p>Sadness</p><p>Scratching/picking
  skin</p><p>Feeling
  superior</p><p>Perfectionism</p><p>Doing,
  doing, doing</p><p>Cleaning</p><p>Feeling
  victimized</p><p>For journaling exercises linked to this chapter purchase Volume I of The Soul-Discovery Journalbook Series by visiting <a href="http://www.pathways2innerpeace.com">www.pathways2innerpeace.com</a>.  </p><p>Happy Journaling!</p>

The repetitive, regular tendencies or practices in daily functioning, those often eliciting our involuntary participation, are known as habits. They become an integral part of our lives as helpful, as well as limiting, entrenchments; the self-care habits that support the health of our physical form stand alongside the pesky, self-sabotage of stress-induced or reactive patterns that become the hard-to-relinquish ruts of daily life.

Habits manifest in all shapes and sizes and are often thought of as an observable behavior. Frequently, our existing habits occur automatically without our consistent or conscious participation, mostly because we lose the need for active focus. Take driving, for example. Once we learn to drive, the methodical thinking through every step to execute the mechanics of operating our vehicle becomes unnecessary. It just organically happens because a habit was formed.

We all have habits of various purpose, creation, and strength – some, borne out of a need for safety, others devised for ease, efficiency, or to fulfill rules or norms. Brushing and washing, for example, live alongside cleaning our room and tidying our home, as well as the larger community care of recycling and maintaining our dwellings and/or properties. Kept in balance, these habits serve to honor our physical temple and proverbial home. Both witness the Divinity within us and all things by loving ourselves, others, and Mother Earth.

As we move beyond our perfunctory and reflexive world to engage in self-reflection, personal growth, and spiritual development, the life of many habits comes to the fore. Some may be easily seen, while others remain an elusive part of our day-to-day operations and reactions and are a bit trickier to detect. Many have their roots in thought or emotional patterns, like the knee-jerk reaction to a perceived negative comment or our slide into self-criticism when we feel we’ve done something wrong.

Taking a closer look at the vast array of habits in our life, their origin is one aspect all hold in common; we can trace our habits’ literal birth from the womb of our beliefs – a belief about ourselves and/or our world. Returning to driving, for example, the proverbial fuel for this American activity lies in the belief in independence, a teenage rite of passage and an alignment with societal norms. Looking deeper into the habits within habits, we might also discover nervous navigation, road rage, or a compulsion to speed fed by corresponding beliefs in danger, others’ wrongdoing, or hurrying through life.

So how can we work with the habits we’ve developed, especially addressing those that don’t serve our highest good? Traveling on the road to discovery and change, we can free ourselves from old habits through examination and relinquishment. Other interventions require intentional re-patterning. Calling, for example, on the Japanese practice of datsuzoku – the freedom from habit, daily routine, or the ordinary – opens us to the new by transcending convention and our personal ruts. Applied, it is the choice to “do something differently”, to break the steps of our routine, or think out of the box in an innovative way and move past our typical ways of operating.

Working at a deeper level we can examine the belief that created our habit in the first place, asking if the habit serves us or we’re serving it. As beliefs that find voice through the patterns of our limiting attitudes become discovered, we can intentionally allow them to fall away because we see how they block us from living freely in alignment with our True Nature. And while releasing these kinds of beliefs moves us forward on our path, the accompanying patterns and habits often remain scored into our psyche like a well-traveled hiking trail until we re-pattern or completely release them, too. In other words, as we liberate ourselves from constraining beliefs, it’s often the habits and patterns that remain intact to plague us, feeling as if they pull our mind and heart back to the ways we left behind, though not nearly as potently as when the attached belief remains active. As we invest energy into new, healthy behaviors instead of our outdated habits, the heavily worn trail of these entrenched neural patterns grows grass again to blend once more with the mossy forest floor of our psyche. Removing all energy from old habits or merely acknowledging any diversion as a tug in the “old direction”, we also practice datsuzoku to move forward on new and exciting paths.

Changing habits, because of their nature and ours, often feels challenging and uncomfortable. But know that discomfort serves as a marker to demonstrate our progress, a sign that we are just where we need to be, even in the midst of change. So hang in there! Remember that habits take approximately eighteen months to form, so their dissolution and/or re-patterning takes time, too.

Listed below is a partial inventory of behavioral, thought, and emotional habits. Those that appear helpful, sustaining, or growth-enhancing remain alongside those that may not serve our highest good. While incomplete, this list shines first light on that which we tend to ignore or do automatically, demonstrating that nearly any behavior, thought pattern, or emotional recurrence may indicate a habit needing our conscious attention. Because we tend to categorically label patterns or habits as “good” or “bad” influenced by our judgment-driven world, in the journeys to come, let’s broaden our scope and instead consider how each habit may be serving our highest good. Are they growth-promoting, health-based patterns, which demonstrate our self-love? Or are they a call to examine what is unhealthy or inhibiting – a notification to shed light on the work yet to be done? For a deeper look, we revisit this topic in Letting Go in Volume IV.

Here lies the opportunity to witness whatever the Universe calls us to observe, re-balance, or shed to be the master of our world, lovingly caring for ourselves on this big, beautiful rock floating in an infinite sky.

Healthy  eating

Word  choice

Emotional  self-care

Caffeine  addiction

Swearing

Staying  centered

Praying

“Seeing”  a silver lining

Loving  attitude

Meditating

Positive  thinking

Reacting  dramatically

Driving  a car

Assuming  “bad” outcomes

Consistent  irritation

Good  hygiene

Being  bossy

Feeling  inferior

Deep  breathing

Looking  for “the culprit”

Blaming  others

Smoking

Complaining

Worrying

Hurrying

Apologizing

Defaulting  to frustration

Physically  isolating

Overly  independent

Shutting  down

Nail  biting

Needing  to be right

Nervousness

Nose  picking

Poor  hygiene

Sadness

Scratching/picking  skin

Feeling  superior

Perfectionism

Doing,  doing, doing

Cleaning

Feeling  victimized

For journaling exercises linked to this chapter purchase Volume I of The Soul-Discovery Journalbook Series by visiting www.pathways2innerpeace.com.  

Happy Journaling!

Posted 11 weeks ago
<h2><a href="https://mailchi.mp/570ca135269c/november-newsletter-2018">

The Rescuer’s Quest:Exploring Our Drive to Help Others</a></h2>As we sit on the heels of a national election, I decided to dodge the temptation to write yet another post about navigating the mire. Instead, I’ve been inspired to talk about a topic that many may find related - our drive to help others.<br/>     Many of us in the healing arts have a magnetic pull to be of help and assist. The vision of seeing/feeling a sentient being suffer, a vision that occurs through our perceptions, can be uncomfortable to say the very least, especially for us empathic folks. That’s not to say that what we witness around us - in our family, our community, or our world - isn’t a call for help. War-torn countries, people racked with famine, homelessness, animals not cared for all exude a level of pain and strife that is difficult to see. We want others happy, healthy, and thriving. Yes?<br/>    The great volume of others’ challenges can overwhelm many of us, pulling our heartstrings to ways of helping, consoling, nurturing, and serving. And without this kind of generosity, no doubt, many more may fall into deeper despair and hopelessness. These are the earth angels that donate their time, resources, homes, loving energies, and talents.<br/>    If you find yourself in this group, good for you! The world needs your help. Here’s my cautionary note, however. Many helpers, in fact, are rescuers - individuals driven to save the world one person, animal, or plant at a time. Driven is the operative word here…think compulsion and need. As a recovering rescuer, trust me when I say that I know the need (born from my own trauma) to help others out of their pain, especially those with emotional turmoil. <br/>     The big challenge of helpers who operate as rescuers is a mindset predicated on the belief of “I’m OK. You’re not OK.” in alignment with the Drama Triangle of Dr. Karpman. Through this role of Rescuer, others are seen as needy, incapable, challenged, at risk, etc. As such, Rescuers attract more responsibility and people in crisis - those lacking maturity or skills to manage their lives. Rescuers often feel the need to put out fires, manage problems, and heap onto their plates more than what is mentally/emotionally/physically healthy, which results often in feeling depleted, unnurtured, and stressed. If this is sounding like you…read on.<br/>     So how might we illuminate this pattern in us and the drama it creates in our life? The first step, as always, is to identify how we operate in our lives, making what is subconscious conscious, and bring it fully into our awareness. Here’s a few questions that may help:<p><br/> 1. Do you feel the need to solve others’ problems?<br/>2. Do you attract people or animals who need you because they’re dependent, crisis-oriented, sickly, overwhelmed with drama, or have difficulty function in the world/life?<br/>3. Do you feel highly responsible for others (especially those who by age and functioning could be doing more for themselves) or tend to dive right into people’s problems?<br/>4. Do you pile more and more responsibilities on your plate? Do you have difficulty asking for help?<br/>5. Do you experience fear at the thought of a person in your life managing their own challenges without you?<br/>6. What do you gain from rescuing others - a sense of accomplishment, relief of your own anxiety/grief, etc?<br/>7. What do you fear losing if you stop worrying, managing, and over helping?<br/>8. What fear might rescuing another alleviate in you?<br/>     One very important reflection that helps us recognize our rescuing tendencies is to identify the feelings/thoughts in ourselves that become side-stepped because we’ve jumped into over-functioning/rescuer mode to help others, ignoring their innate skills and the opportunities they manifested to grow. Many times, our disproportional focus on others’ problems alleviate the stress and/or pain we need to heal in our own lives. In the words of Greek playwright Aeschylus:</p><p><br/><i>                                                 Medice, cura te ipsum.</i><br/>                                                 Physician, heal thyself.</p><p><br/> Many Blessings,<br/>Adriene<br/><br/><br/></p>

The Rescuer’s Quest:Exploring Our Drive to Help Others

As we sit on the heels of a national election, I decided to dodge the temptation to write yet another post about navigating the mire. Instead, I’ve been inspired to talk about a topic that many may find related - our drive to help others.
    Many of us in the healing arts have a magnetic pull to be of help and assist. The vision of seeing/feeling a sentient being suffer, a vision that occurs through our perceptions, can be uncomfortable to say the very least, especially for us empathic folks. That’s not to say that what we witness around us - in our family, our community, or our world - isn’t a call for help. War-torn countries, people racked with famine, homelessness, animals not cared for all exude a level of pain and strife that is difficult to see. We want others happy, healthy, and thriving. Yes?
   The great volume of others’ challenges can overwhelm many of us, pulling our heartstrings to ways of helping, consoling, nurturing, and serving. And without this kind of generosity, no doubt, many more may fall into deeper despair and hopelessness. These are the earth angels that donate their time, resources, homes, loving energies, and talents.
   If you find yourself in this group, good for you! The world needs your help. Here’s my cautionary note, however. Many helpers, in fact, are rescuers - individuals driven to save the world one person, animal, or plant at a time. Driven is the operative word here…think compulsion and need. As a recovering rescuer, trust me when I say that I know the need (born from my own trauma) to help others out of their pain, especially those with emotional turmoil.
    The big challenge of helpers who operate as rescuers is a mindset predicated on the belief of “I’m OK. You’re not OK.” in alignment with the Drama Triangle of Dr. Karpman. Through this role of Rescuer, others are seen as needy, incapable, challenged, at risk, etc. As such, Rescuers attract more responsibility and people in crisis - those lacking maturity or skills to manage their lives. Rescuers often feel the need to put out fires, manage problems, and heap onto their plates more than what is mentally/emotionally/physically healthy, which results often in feeling depleted, unnurtured, and stressed. If this is sounding like you…read on.
    So how might we illuminate this pattern in us and the drama it creates in our life? The first step, as always, is to identify how we operate in our lives, making what is subconscious conscious, and bring it fully into our awareness. Here’s a few questions that may help:


1. Do you feel the need to solve others’ problems?
2. Do you attract people or animals who need you because they’re dependent, crisis-oriented, sickly, overwhelmed with drama, or have difficulty function in the world/life?
3. Do you feel highly responsible for others (especially those who by age and functioning could be doing more for themselves) or tend to dive right into people’s problems?
4. Do you pile more and more responsibilities on your plate? Do you have difficulty asking for help?
5. Do you experience fear at the thought of a person in your life managing their own challenges without you?
6. What do you gain from rescuing others - a sense of accomplishment, relief of your own anxiety/grief, etc?
7. What do you fear losing if you stop worrying, managing, and over helping?
8. What fear might rescuing another alleviate in you?
    One very important reflection that helps us recognize our rescuing tendencies is to identify the feelings/thoughts in ourselves that become side-stepped because we’ve jumped into over-functioning/rescuer mode to help others, ignoring their innate skills and the opportunities they manifested to grow. Many times, our disproportional focus on others’ problems alleviate the stress and/or pain we need to heal in our own lives. In the words of Greek playwright Aeschylus:


                                                 Medice, cura te ipsum.
                                                 Physician, heal thyself.


Many Blessings,
Adriene


Posted 11 weeks ago
<p>Historically, we think of arrogance as a sign that a particular someone is disdainfully self-assured, feeling “better than” their peers or others. This has always been my view of arrogance, too, seeing it as an imaginary step up the ladder of self opinions. Arrogance marks a feeling of conceit, an overly confident air, egotism, or attitude that feeds a sense of superiority. It’s not pretty and we all can fall prey to it.</p><p>What if, however, a counter-part to the arrogance we know exists, a sibling hidden behind insecurity. Perhaps it’s even the real face of arrogance? What I’m suggesting is a state that I’ve termed<i> paradoxical arrogance</i> - the harbinger of low self-esteem and self-deprecation marked by self-beating, self-criticism, and unreasonable expectations. Paradoxical arrogance is the “better than” attitude our ego mind presses us with when we don’t perform to its standards. It’s the critical internal voice that says, “We shouldn’t have made a mistake,” taking our inner child to task and berating them for a perceived wrongdoing. Paradoxical arrogance is the superiority of our ego mind against the rest of the self - the idea that we, somehow, should be beyond mistakes, bloopers, or mishaps instead of living with the humility to realize that we’re human, accepting that humans make mistakes.</p><p>Paradoxical arrogance is first, then, an internal process; the same one that our ego can carry into the world armed with sharpened, perfectionist-driven bows and arrow to slay our co-workers, neighbors, or partners, because it uncomfortably witnesses the same traits in others. As we take our paradoxical sibling into our relationships, we become critical or arrogant outwardly.</p><p>So, the next time we turn on ourselves, diminish our choices, or feel lesser-than because we “should have known otherwise,” tell that arrogant ego voice to  #$%* off. Be mindful of its high and mighty air and drop it off at the sewage treatment plant. Our self-esteem doesn’t improve by participating in paradoxical arrogance, self-beatings, or judgement. It does respond to taking risks, changing our behavior, and choosing to be more gentle with ourselves and others.</p>

Historically, we think of arrogance as a sign that a particular someone is disdainfully self-assured, feeling “better than” their peers or others. This has always been my view of arrogance, too, seeing it as an imaginary step up the ladder of self opinions. Arrogance marks a feeling of conceit, an overly confident air, egotism, or attitude that feeds a sense of superiority. It’s not pretty and we all can fall prey to it.

What if, however, a counter-part to the arrogance we know exists, a sibling hidden behind insecurity. Perhaps it’s even the real face of arrogance? What I’m suggesting is a state that I’ve termed paradoxical arrogance - the harbinger of low self-esteem and self-deprecation marked by self-beating, self-criticism, and unreasonable expectations. Paradoxical arrogance is the “better than” attitude our ego mind presses us with when we don’t perform to its standards. It’s the critical internal voice that says, “We shouldn’t have made a mistake,” taking our inner child to task and berating them for a perceived wrongdoing. Paradoxical arrogance is the superiority of our ego mind against the rest of the self - the idea that we, somehow, should be beyond mistakes, bloopers, or mishaps instead of living with the humility to realize that we’re human, accepting that humans make mistakes.

Paradoxical arrogance is first, then, an internal process; the same one that our ego can carry into the world armed with sharpened, perfectionist-driven bows and arrow to slay our co-workers, neighbors, or partners, because it uncomfortably witnesses the same traits in others. As we take our paradoxical sibling into our relationships, we become critical or arrogant outwardly.

So, the next time we turn on ourselves, diminish our choices, or feel lesser-than because we “should have known otherwise,” tell that arrogant ego voice to  #$%* off. Be mindful of its high and mighty air and drop it off at the sewage treatment plant. Our self-esteem doesn’t improve by participating in paradoxical arrogance, self-beatings, or judgement. It does respond to taking risks, changing our behavior, and choosing to be more gentle with ourselves and others.

Posted 11 weeks ago
<p>Energy follows intent and your aura is a projection of your personal spiritual energy molded by your intent. </p>

<p>“Our [energy] field is created a combination of our pure Spirit energy AND what we contribute to the field through interaction with “our world” (as the who, what, and where of our personal universe) through our inner climate (beliefs, reactions, attitudes, thoughts, emotions, and feelings).”</p>

<p>What shape is your aura? What are you creating and putting in your world today? <br/>
#thesouldiscoveryjournalbook #awareness #aura #innerwork #spiritualdevelopment #bookquotes #higherconsciousness #journaling #bookstagram #bethebestyou <br/>
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Energy follows intent and your aura is a projection of your personal spiritual energy molded by your intent.

“Our [energy] field is created a combination of our pure Spirit energy AND what we contribute to the field through interaction with “our world” (as the who, what, and where of our personal universe) through our inner climate (beliefs, reactions, attitudes, thoughts, emotions, and feelings).”

What shape is your aura? What are you creating and putting in your world today?
#thesouldiscoveryjournalbook #awareness #aura #innerwork #spiritualdevelopment #bookquotes #higherconsciousness #journaling #bookstagram #bethebestyou
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Posted 22 weeks ago

Constant Evolution

Posted by Adriene Nicastro-Santos on Tuesday, November 14, 2017

Constant Evolution

by Adriene Nicastro-Santos

     Those of you who spend time with me in group or other venues have witnessed the struggle and profound lessons of the past months. On this journey of spiritual growth, witnessing the challenges of those who appear as our teachers can be frightening. But if we are a student of The Course in Miracles or A Course of Love, we know that teachers and students are relative terms. At times we clearly are one, at times the other, but always uncovering and becoming aware of exactly what is for our highest and best. 
     Sometimes a notion that the group facilitator or teacher should not be in a place to face challenges is what besets us, bringing the thoughts and worries about what's in store in our own future. Others may find relief that they are not alone in experiencing life's lessons.
     After so many years of study, I think I was surprised to find myself in a place of still getting to know Cosmic Force. And much like so many other lessons, I was not aware of how disconnected I felt from it until I emerged on the other side of the experience. How could it be that I felt like this? Well, we all create expectations, constructs, and superimposed belief systems on everything from times past. Cosmic Force, Universal Power, God is not exempt from this. In fact, God and our beliefs about God are reflected in everything we experience...everything. It would seem that all experiences are merely a silhouette or pale shadow of our experiences of God. 
     My current lessons profoundly reminded me that God is in everything, from the smallest molecule to the biggest building. Anything made of natural substances contains that Cosmic Energy. That which is man-made also contains the God-energy of it's creator. And we are all creators. How wondrous, varied, and colorful the faces of God. From the plants, the trees, and the animals...all have Cosmic Energy that we can interact with and collaborate with in a magical, intricate dance. And just when we are having a little row with our partner or conversation with ourselves, God is witness experiencing life through us as us. We are never, ever truly alone or without.

Many blessings on your path,
Adriene



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